The old adage is very true. Very few people end up marrying the first person they date, or even the fifth or the seventh. Sometimes it's not easy to tell the difference between the two. A frog can look a lot like a prince when you're young, inexperienced, on the rebound from a failed relationship, or just plain lonely. Here are a few tips on how to recognize a garden-variety frog in human disguise:
* He makes last-minute dates; then spends as little money as possible when you're out together. He sometimes claims to have "left his wallet at home".
* When you're out in a group, he flirts openly with your friends. At a dance, he spends as much time on the floor with other girls as he does with you.
* He criticizes your family or makes fun of them. He resists going to visit them, even on special occasions like Christmas.
* You're an animal lover, and he hates pets. You know he'll never agree to having a dog, a cat or even a bird cage in the house.
* He is adamant that he never wants children. You come from a large, happy family and hope to have a family of your own some day.
* He has been caught in a lie or at least he has been known to "bend" the truth. For example, when he claimed to have been helping his friend get over a broken heart, he failed to mention he was consoling him at the local strip joint.
* You belong to a traditional faith community and religion is an important factor in your life. He views all religions as primitive superstition.
* You come from different cultures and he will not compromise on observing customs and traditions.
* In your personal lives and habits, you have little in common. You may like books and quiet, romantic evenings by the fire while he prefers partying, sports and action with the more people around, the better.
If even a few of these points sound familiar, and apply to your present relationship, it's time to face facts. You are involved with the human version of the fairy-tale frog.
However, as in the children's story, the frog can become a prince, perhaps not for you, but for someone else. Fortunately, we are all different. Those character traits which grate on your nerves may be just what someone else is seeking. Waste no time in setting your frog free so he can go searching for his true mate.
As for you, don't give up hope. Your authentic Prince Charming may be waiting right around the next corner. If you have faith, your patience will ultimately be rewarded.
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