Can you ever trust anyone 100%?

The surest way to a broken heart is to trust another human being 100%. No human being, in possession of all his faculties, is perfectly trustworthy. In recognition of this fact, it is wise to withhold total trust, and control of personal assets to another individual. A prudent person will retain a certain amount of independence and adequate means to assure self-sufficiency, should the worst happen.

Although you may be deeply loved at the beginning of a relationship or even a marriage, it is a fact of life that people can grow and change. Your beloved may uncover aspects of your personality that he finds a real turnoff. He may meet another whom he finds even more enchanting than you. These same eventualities could apply, just as easily, to you.

Statistics reveal that more than half of all marriages end in divorce. The deeper the initial feelings of love and commitment, the more bitter and acrimonious will be the eventual break-up and divorce negotiations. It is only logical to make provision for this possibility, no matter how unlikely it may seem in the early period of a fresh romance.

When you observe a mother with her baby, you may think, "There, surely, is an example of love that can be trusted 100%. Most mothers would rather die themselves than see any harm come to their offspring". That's true, for the time being. But if you could fast forward the scene about fifteen years, you'd see the sweet baby may now be a teenager, a moody, rebellious, disrespectful young adult.

The mother's feelings have changed. She's ready to lock him out of the house because she's discovered marijuana cigarettes, illicit drugs and pornographic magazines in his dresser drawer.

Her heartbreak is all the more intense because she trusted her beautiful baby 100% to grow into an adult of whom she could be proud. He has failed, at this time anyway, to meet her expectations and her emotions of total love and devotion have changed to anger, frustration and disappointment.

Nothing in this world is permanent except change. The wise person will recognize this fact and plan for it. Examples of grief caused by misplaced trust abound in human experience: the best friend who runs off with your spouse, the housekeeper who steals your valuables, the mechanic who fudges your repair bill, the favored politician who breaks all his campaign promises. However, the most painful betrayal of all is the lover who breaks your heart.

When you fall in love, there are no guarantees that the blissful condition will last forever. Whether the break-up, if it occurs, is initiated by you or by your partner, it will be painful. It is a disappointment, a loss, often accompanied by an intense period of soul-searching and a sense of failure. These negative emotions should not be compounded by acute financial worries or a frantic search for affordable living accommodations.

If you refrain from putting 100% of your trust in another human being, any human being, you'll save yourself much misery, if and when it becomes evident that your trust has been misplaced. And that can happen, anywhere and anytime to any of us.